On Everyday Thankfulness and Kindness

On any given day I observe our young students carry in a can of soup, or a box of cereal and place in our donation basket for our local food pantry.  They are truly receiving great role modeling from their parents who support this neighborhood need.  The children know they are helping some other children in families that do not have enough food.  We support this great outreach every week throughout the school year.  At this time of Thanksgiving when families gather in celebration and thanks, many people make a greater effort to support food pantries, clothing drives, soup kitchens, various charities and people in need.  Our children are never too young to learn about being thankful and sharing kindnesses.  The season of Thanksgiving provides a wonderful opportunity to develop a lifelong habit of being thankful for what one has, as well as sharing time, showing kindness, and giving from the heart.

With that in mind here are some ways to help raise grateful, kind children by Homa Tavanger author of “Growing up Global: Raising Children to Be at Home in the world.”

1.     Say "Thank you." When "thank yous" are instilled in our vocabulary at home, a lifelong practice begins, even if it doesn't stick at first. You can gently restate a sentence with polite language inserted or suggest saying "Thank you" together.

2.     Teach through role play. If your little one is too shy to say "thank you" in a social setting, they can pretend to teach their stuffed animals or dolls to do so, while you play along.

3.     Live it. Set an example and show appreciation by conveying you paid attention to real effort: "Your room looks so nice with the toys in their bins. I'm so happy that you remembered to put them away!"

4.     Create daily or weekly routines. A regular question, "What are you most thankful for today?" can serve as a comforting routine at bedtime or a highlight of a weekly dinner ritual.

5.     Make giving and volunteering a habit. Set aside toys and clothing in good condition. Deliver the items to a deserving cause together. Talk about the process and why you care. Tap into organizations like Global Giving that offer a virtual marketplace for making a difference.

6.     Create gratitude gift lists. Alongside a holiday or birthday gift wish list, for every item, family members can list something they are grateful for. These are the "priceless" gifts. By generating the list in a beautiful way, you demonstrate how valuable the alternate list is; it can be a keepsake for years to come.

7.     Be patient. Kids can't be cajoled into showing appreciation, but your gentle efforts and examples will instill gratitude as a way of life.

Research by the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley shows that "people who practice gratitude feel considerably happier (25%) than those in a control group; they are more joyful, enthusiastic, interested, and determined."

Here’s to a happy long-lasting season of thankfulness, kindness and giving for all!
Colette B. Cross

50 Questions to Ask Your Kids Instead of Asking “How Was Your Day”

Leslie Means

1.      Can you tell me an example of kindness you saw/showed? 

2.      Was there an example of unkindness? How did you respond?

3.      Does everyone have a friend at recess?

4.      What was the book about that your teacher read?

5.      What’s the word of the week?

6.      Did anyone do anything silly to make you laugh?

7.      Did anyone cry?

8.      What did you do that was creative?

9.      What is the most popular game at recess?

10. What was the best thing that happened today?

11. Did you help anyone today?

12. Did you tell anyone “thank you?”

13. Who did you sit with at lunch?

14. What made you laugh?

15. Did you learn something you didn’t understand?

16. Who inspired you today?

17. What was the peak and the pit?

18. What was your least favorite part of the day?

19. Was anyone in your class gone today?

20. Did you ever feel unsafe?

21. What is something you heard that surprised you?

22. What is something you saw that made you think?

23. Who did you play with today?

24. Tell me something you know today that you didn’t know yesterday.

25. What is something that challenged you?

26. How did someone fill your bucket today? Whose bucket did you fill?

27. Did you like your lunch?

28. Rate your day on a scale from 1-10.

29. Did anyone get in trouble today?

30. How were you brave today?

31. What questions did you ask at school today?

32. Tell us your top two things from the day (before you can be excused from the dinner table!). 

33. What are you looking forward to tomorrow?

34. What are you reading?

35. What was the hardest rule to follow today?

36. Teach me something I don’t know.

37. If you could change one thing about your day, what would it be?

38. (For older kids):  Do you feel prepared for your history test?” or, “Is there anything on your mind that you’d like to talk about?” (In my opinion, the key is not only the way a question is phrased, but responding in a supportive way.)

39. Who did you share your snacks with at lunch?

40. What made your teacher smile? What made her frown?

41. What kind of person were you today?

42. What made you feel happy? 

43. What made you feel proud?

44. What made you feel loved?

45. Did you learn any new words today?

46. What do you hope to do before school is out for the year?

47. If you could switch seats with anyone in class, who would it be? And why?

48. What is your least favorite part of the school building? And favorite?

49. If you switched places with your teacher tomorrow, what would you teach the class?

Words of Wisdom

For some additional insight:  https://www.backwoodsmama.com/2018/02/stop-telling-kids-be-careful-and-what-to-say-instead.html

The Benefits of a Multi-age Classroom

Next week we will host a presentation for parents of our toddlers who will be moving up to our Early Childhood program in the fall.  One of the biggest differences their children will experience will be that of a multi-aged environment.

We see the tremendous benefits of this environment every day, and I thought sharing the highlights of these would be advantageous for all readers.

A multi-aged environment provides:

Natural Life Setting/Real World Preparation

Families are made up of different age groupings; it is natural for a classroom environment too.

Our classes function like a family unit.

Children learn to collaborate and solve problems together.

The real-world setting encompasses different ages, abilities and social expectations.

Children are prepared to function in the real world.

Experiential/Individualized Learning

By the nature of different ages and developmental skill sets, children are provided the opportunity to learn at their own pace.

Expectations are tailored to each child’s readiness and capabilities.

Comparisons are eliminated, and children develop pride in their own accomplishments.

Character Building Opportunities

Patience and tolerance are developed.  Older children learn to understand the needs of a younger child.

Older students developing leadership skills through role modeling.

Younger children look up to and admire their older classmates and aspire to be able to do as they do, which increases confidence.

Peer Teaching

Older students are given opportunities to teach younger children and solidify their own learning by so doing.

Younger students see that not only teachers can teach.

“The main thing is that the groups should contain different ages, because it has great influence on the cultural development of the child. This is obtained by the relations of the children among themselves. You cannot imagine how well a young child learns from an older child: how patient the older child is with the difficulties of the younger.”

Dr. Maria Montessori, The Child, Society and the World 

         

Teachers, we celebrate you and thank you!

"much of the work you do (also) is about the intangible - it's about fostering that almost indescribable, and yet unmistakable, spark between you and your students."

John B. King Jr., Secretary of Education, US Department of Education

Thank you, Teachers

Teachers are keys

That unlock the student’s mind

You are guides who mold our mind.

You are one of a kind.

You are like a shepherd

Who guides the sheep

To the right path.

You, teachers, turn the pages

Of the great books.

You train us well

To reach great heights.

Thank you, teachers,

For all you have done.

In the group of many

You are one.

© Meghana Vincent

Published May 2017

Source:  https://www.familyfriendpoems.com